Insecure Recap: Season 4, Episode 1, Lowkey Feelin’ Myself

As an avid fan of Insecure, I had been harassing Issa about the show for months. I normally judge folks who comment on celebs pictures and DM them but she forced my hand. She took way too long but I must admit, it seems like this season will be worth the wait. If you’re reading this, I’m assuming you’ve watched so I will speak as such.

Right off the top, we learned what this episode and possibly this season will be about: friendship. In the first line, Issa says she’s not rocking with Molly and then we rewind four months. I gasped. Was not expecting that. When Issa said she didn’t have a job or man, I felt very… seen.

Is Molly doing molly?

Fast forward and we see Molly act real shady towards Issa with her slick comment about her “wanting” her life to be messy. First of all, that’s enough right there for me to be like “bye!” You don’t talk to your friends like that. PERIOD. Or anyone for that matter.  That comment came from a place of frustration that she has with herself. Don’t nobody “want” their life to be a mess. It just happens. Either she didn’t notice that comment bothered Issa or didn’t care but regardless, they should’ve kept talking about it. Condola and Issa could have a productive, professional relationship. I mean, they won’t because it’s television but it’s possible. Don’t let no man stop the bag. Okay?! Chat more about this later.

They’ve made it very clear that Issa finally got her ish together which made the comment from Molly even more misplaced. When she met Condola at the restaurant, I thought “Wait. Why her outfit so cute?” Then she explained at the boutique with Molly and it all made sense. Issa has a casual sexual relationship with TSA bae that appears to be stringless and I was beaming when she said she didn’t want Nathan at her event. GROWTH. Last season, Issa would’ve let him come through. 

You can see the dynamics of their relationship starting to shift because Issa is growing. I don’t think Molly is jealous but she’s not used to Issa being grown and not needing her which is what I believe will cause a rift in their relationship. She went into the event with low expectations hence the little shade she threw when she told Andrew the event was going to be homegrown and that Issa was trying. She’s basically patronizing, not supporting, her. She was genuinely surprised that the mixer went well and gave her the ol’ lackluster congrats.

Plus, she’s being needy too. It was weird when she asked Issa what she should do about Andrew seeing other people because she never asks her opinion about her dating life. And if I’m recalling correctly, she got mad at her for something about Dro. So yea. I feel like Molly may be entering a transitional space and resistant towards the change and growth required. Idk though. I could be projecting. 

What is a Condola?

Condola has helped Issa so much with her event and they have made a connection. However, she’s holding on to the relationship because she thinks she needs her to make the event a success. Condola already got her in the room with the right people but Issa’s speech kept them there. Once Issa realizes her power and that she can hold her own, then I think she’ll come to her senses and cut ties with her. Issa came up with this idea and she needs to realize this is all her. Condola was simply a tool that’s helping bring it to fruition. When things start to go awry at her event, Issa takes control and gets the sponsors to commit.

Being friends with Condola is weird and unnecessary. It’s cool to have her as a business associate but Lawrence is her ex. They shared a life together for YEARS. She doesn’t want to be with him (shout out to TSA bae) but he’s still her ex. They aren’t mature enough to have a friendship after dating that long and who really is that mature? Divorced people? Whatever. It’s weird. 

Anyway, I think Lawrence will be the one to mess everything up with Condola. You saw the preview where he was choking all on his food? Be cool, Lawrence. He plays a role in this just as much as the two women. You chose her at an event amongst mutual friends so you knew there would be a chance of crossing someone you both knew. Or he didn’t think of that just like a typical guy. Just saw a pretty face and went for it. I hope he feels the heat and awkwardness of all this. Condola and Issa shouldn’t be the only ones suffering. 

Tiffany (and maybe Kelli) ARE WRONG

Now, the moment I have been waiting for: Tiffany and Kelli knowing about Condola and Lawrence and not telling Issa. I’m assuming Kelli knew because her and Tiff are tight. But Tiffany should’ve told Issa about the first date whether she thought it was a big deal or not. She knew she was wrong too because she kept telling Issa she didn’t know and kept checking in with her. Issa has every right to cut them off but if her relationship with Molly is going to collapse then she can’t lose them too.

However, they were wrong period. The thing is, had Issa only been with Lawrence for let’s say six months and it hadn’t been as serious, they definitely would’ve mentioned it, even casually. Them not saying anything feels intentional, like they made it a point to keep it from her and that’s not what friends do. The fact that Issa and Lawrence have a deep history makes it that more important for them to share it with her. She’s in this awkward situation because of them. Then for her to find out in front of Condola? Not cool. Had Issa known, she probably could have avoided that awkwardness at the mixer and simply maintained a business relationship.

Also, Condola is the person he’s dating seriously right after her. Pick a ex. Any ex. Not even a long term one. A year or less. Now, think about being friends with his girlfriend. No. Anh anh. Plus, even if Tiffany thought it wasn’t serious, she knew Issa was working with her and should have told her then. Issa could have not been as friendly. I’m all for black lady friendships and all of that but that’s weird. Personally, I would cut them off because loyalty. If you not sharing info about your best friend’s ex with your best friend, then it’s time to re-evaluate that friendship because you ain’t real. 

What y’all think? Let’s talk about it in the comments!