Insecure Recap: Season 4, Episode 2: Lowkey Distant

Insecure Recap: Season 4, Episode 2: Lowkey Distant

We’re not discussing this episode in order because…


As someone who has let way too many exes pull up, this is a disaster waiting to happen. I can see the flames now. The destruction that’s waiting to happen.

Ooh, what if him and Nathan both end up outside whining? Not going to happen but that’s me as a writer.

First of all, Lawrence needs to take up his little grievances with Condola. His insecurities (see what I did there?) are not for Issa to carry or care about for that matter. He lied to Condola but felt like he could bare it all to Issa because, what, history? Nah. I’m not buying that. Issa should have nipped that in the bud and ignored him. Why is he not blocked, anyway?

That little rendezvous also proved the point I’ve been trying to make: Issa and Condola are not friends. They can’t be friends. You don’t do that to your friends. You don’t keep secrets with their man. Where is the loyalty? Issa’s should no longer with Lawrence and if she and Condola are “friends”, then that’s where her loyalty lies but they not friends.

I’m not buying Issa being grown, anymore. I strongly believe deep down in my heart that Lawrence is going to end up outside Issa’s apartment before this season is over and it won’t be to argue or talk about Condola. Okay?!

I had to get that out. But let’s rewind.


Oh, I said that already? Well, here’s point #474.

Last week, I saw a tweet that said Condola was intimidated by Issa that’s why she ran her tail straight to Lawrence when she after Issa shined at her mixer. This week solidified that point.

Why did Condola feel the need to bring up that she and Lawrence were going away for the weekend? I feel like she just wanted Issa to know. They could have a friendship where Lawrence doesn’t come up, but she felt the need to slide that in there to let them know they were getting closer. I see Condola’s side: the relationship is new and it’s all cute and stuff but surely you can find someone else to chat about this with.

And Issa, girl. I get it. You’re awkward. But I feel like she’s trying so hard to prove that she’s okay with this situation and it’s perfectly fine for her not to be. She’s going to look even worse when she and Lawrence sleep together because that’s happening.

I’m glad we get to meet Condola’s other friends next week because I’m tired of her crowding Issa.


Okay, stay with me. I know we want to hate Molly but I really appreciated the fact that we got a peek into her life this week so we could garner some compassion for her and understand her better.

An important part of being an emotionally intelligent friend is knowing when to mix friends and when to keep them apart. For example, since I moved, I don’t mix them at all. My friends want me to themselves since they don’t have access to me like before. Molly doesn’t have the same access to Issa and she’s feeling neglected especially because Issa isn’t intentional about them spending time together. Plus, why let Condola stay when you know Molly don’t like her or know her like that? Some of my friends will never be around each other and that’s that.

Molly feels like she’s losing her friend and she’s reacting to that.  Yes, they have self-care Sundays but that’s minor considering that they used to spend so much time together. In the previous seasons, all we saw was Issa and Molly and now it’s Condola and Issa. Of course, Molly will feel some type of way. Adjusting to change is tough. I know we want to hate Molly but I’m here to give her some grace. Every week, I try to figure out who the title is about and this week, it’s about Issa. She’s distant from Molly.

We also know that Molly doesn’t handle challenges or changes of any sort well. She freaks out at the slightest inconvenience and stays with her guard up. She’s incredibly defensive all the time and stays on the defense. But I also think this something we see with a lot of black women. Between the pressures of work and maintaining relationships, we don’t know how to be soft. We don’t have the time or the space to do so and worst, the world doesn’t give us the grace or a reason to soften up. Yes, Molly has a lot of growing up to do but I get it. I see the flaws and potential in every Molly I know. Molly is just insecure and needs to work through that so her relationships can thrive. (I did it again.) She’s doing it with Andrew and Taurean so maybe Issa’s up next.

Molly’s flawed. Shouldn’t we love her through that? We all need someone to love us when we’re hard to love and if your friends don’t then what’s the point? She’s not causing harm but being incredibly annoying, something we all do, sometimes unknowingly, sometimes intentionally. Most of this could be fixed with a conversation. I don’t think she’s at the point of being discarded but this is television. She’ll give us a reason soon enough.

One last thing…


Never did I think I would agree with Chad, but valid points were made.

Also, I’ve never made gumbo but I know the steps and I know you don’t taste roux. Issa and Prentice need me in that writer’s room. Holla at ya girl.

Really sad TSA Bae is gone but I get it. This man has two kids and another on the way. Add this to the reasons I’m not buying into grown Issa anymore.

Okay, let’s talk about it, y’all. I know I only hit the topics that touched my heart so chime in with anything else that stood out.


  1. RideauNoel
    April 20, 2020 / 6:50 am

    Love it!! Amazing post. I completely agree that we should give Molly some grace, we have all been in that space with a friend. I also think Issa and Lawrence will definitely get intimate by the end of the season. Only thing I disagree with is that you are supposed to taste the roux before you put everything in it, but it’s okay for it to be a little salty because the meat and seafood will help balance it out lol. ?

    • Kay
      April 20, 2020 / 7:01 am

      Okay, okay. I stand corrected. They still need me in the writer’s room though lol thanks for reading!

  2. Courtney Lane
    April 20, 2020 / 8:13 am

    When Lawrence pulled up, I screamed!! Bruh, this is going to back fire. Once Condola finds out, it’s a wrap. Why did Issa even call and ask does Condola know? I’m with Molly, it is toooo messy. They can’t be friends. I do have a soft spot for Molly because there isn’t any area of her life that’s thriving. She’s in that figuring it out stage that makes us all uncomfortable but it’s necessary for growth.

  3. Bree
    April 20, 2020 / 8:50 am

    The nerve of Lawrence to pull up to Issa’s crib. I wanted her to check him so bad, but we know that’s not Issa. I couldn’t believe Chad said something that made sense!!!
    Why do you think Molly lied to Issa about the phone call from Andrew?

    • Kay
      April 20, 2020 / 8:55 am

      She’s starting to shut Issa out. Remember when Kelli already knew she slept with Andrew but Issa didn’t?

  4. Chelsi Stokes
    April 20, 2020 / 10:16 am

    After reading this, I agree to give Molly a chance. Also, Molly may have had plenty of reasons to say what she said to Issa at the end of episode 1. The comment about her wanting her life to be messy when it didnt have to. Clearly this secert about Lawrence pulling up to her spot is another way Issa is keeping up the mess.

  5. Elise P
    April 20, 2020 / 3:06 pm

    I love all the points you made about Molly! I really felt for her this episode! Overall… awesome read!

  6. Stacey
    April 20, 2020 / 3:08 pm

    Girl everything you say be spot on!!!

    • Kay
      April 20, 2020 / 4:12 pm

      Hahaha I be analyzing girl.

  7. Bayley
    April 28, 2020 / 6:46 am

    So sorry I’m late to the party, but I wanted to chime in! I too caped for Molly by the end of this episode. I especially thought she had the right idea in confronting Andrew about their closeness. Like, we can as close as any two people can get physically, but you won’t share your work problems?? But, I didn’t like how she lied at the end especially when her concerns were validated by his apology.

    After episode 1, I was like TSA bae is kinda sweet and supportive but Issa shot that dead lol.

    Lawrence, Lawrence, Lawrence…his tragic flaw is doing inappropriate shit. And there’s not much more I can offer to that, lol

    Excellent blog!!

    • Kay
      April 28, 2020 / 7:03 am

      Yea Andrew was trippin. I didn’t like that at all. And Lawrence is… Lawrence. All of my predictions have been wrong so I’m looking forward to the next episodes.

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