Asking God to change someone can be a waste. Ask God to change you. How can you make the situation better? What can you do to see God’s will be done? Ask God to remove anything from your heart that isn’t serving the situation.
Don’t pray for God to change someone so that they may fit into your life. If they aren’t fitting in, then they probably shouldn’t be there. Ask God to reveal their role in your life. While no one can stop God’s plan, they can certainly delay you from getting to the next level. Sever relationships that no longer serve you. I think one of the biggest mistakes I have made is allowing people to remain in my life longer than they should. It’s difficult to end relationships especially when there’s no conflict but sometimes it’s deeper than that.
As cliche as it sounds, people are in your life for seasons. As we constantly grow, sometimes we grow apart from others. It’s hard to accept and no one really likes change. You’ll feel alone but it will make sense one day. The last thing you want to do is be in a relationship that God didn’t ordain, platonic or romantic.
By taking the time to self-reflect and determine how you can be better you are giving yourself permission to grow. As you evolve, let people meet you where you are. Don’t shrink or change. Bloom and allow everyone else the same opportunity for a graceful evolution.
As I’ve gone through changes and growing pains, I realized that I would judge others for being the same or for not growing at all. I also found myself trying to force my beliefs on them and oversharing things I’ve learned. This was wrong on so many levels but I was stunting my own growth as well by concerning myself with what everyone else was doing.
It was through this that I learned the value of self-reflection. Even when I’m faced with conflict or literally anything, I take a step back and ask myself what could I have done better or what can I do to make this situation better? Could I have been more kind or gentle? Was I compassionate or empathetic? Did I leave the person feeling better than when I first encountered them?
Ask God to change you. Renew you. Give you a heart like his. Eyes that see the good in everyone and can look past their flaws. A heart that loves the broken and abused. A mind that’s slow to judge.