How often do you take an assessment of the people around you?
Not just the quantity but the quality.
What are they doing? Last thing you want to do is be around someone complacent. Even if they are in a season of waiting, let them wait alone. That’s not your walk.
Where have they been? Everyone has a story and everyone has been through some stuff. Do you know what type of things your friends have been through that made them the person they are?
Where are they going? What if you’ve already been down that road? Are you going to go backwards because that’s your friend and you want to help them? Or are you going to continue down the your path?
Get into mutually beneficial relationships. You need friends who pour into you and hold you accountable. Friends who speak life into you. Friends that encourage you to go for it and not play safe. Friends that call you out. Friends that check on you.
Have friends from all walks of life. Friends that don’t look and think like you to open your eyes to new perspectives and keep you well rounded.
Be mindful of your space and what energy you allow around you. Pray for discernment to figure out who has to go. I’m saying this because I’ve been there and in hindsight, it was a lesson learned but I was still pissed off. All I had to do was take a step back and pray. The answer was there all along.
People will drain you by attaching themselves to you. So many times I’ve been like “why does he/she always wanna be around me? Why are they trying to hang out with me all the time?” Pray about stuff like that. By all means, make new friends but nurture relationships that serve you and help you grow. Be selfish with your time, space and energy. Not everyone can go where you’re going! And while no one can stop what God has in store for you, they can definitely slow it down.
I know what role all of my friends play in my life. And if I’m not around someone it’s because I don’t want to be! In some way, fashion or form I’ve discovered they serve no purpose in my life. And that’s not mean. This is my life. Why would I keep you around if you serve no purpose? Becoming this woman God needs me to be is more important than your feelings and if God has told me that you got to go, I’d be doing you, myself and the kingdom a huge disservice by not obeying that.
Don’t get me wrong: I am open to new friends. I’m currently accepting applications for an accountability partner, a travel buddy, someone to engage in heated, political debates with and a devoted brunch person. I realize one friend can’t be everything to me and am open to expanding my circle as should you. But these new folks will go through some vetting and be prayed for ferociously cuz ya girl is on a mission. I’m focused and don’t need anymore distractions and leeches.
I’m tryna be great.
As always, take what you need and leave the rest.
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