How Social Media Disrupted My Relationship with Myself

How Social Media Disrupted My Relationship with Myself

I have a love hate relationship with the medias. I love filters. If you follow me on Snapchat, you recently witnessed me freaking out about missing filters. I love memes and I love that Daquan page. I love taking pictures of myself because I think I’m pretty. Shout out to my Sunday Selfies. I like seeing other pretty people and fine men.

However, do I like constantly being connected to people? Nope. Something doesn’t seem right about it.

Anyway, I was spending too much time on the medias. It wasn’t addiction but it wasn’t time well spent and I didn’t feel good afterwards. You see, I have to spend time entertaining these thoughts, ideas and voices that float around in my head and the medias were distracting me from doing so. It was blocking my creativity and productivity. I couldn’t hear my own voice because all of the voices on the medias were drowning me out.

Initially, I got rid of Facebook. I had recently gotten back on the book after being off for years and shortly discovered thereafter the space simply isn’t for me. I saved my talents for Instagram and Snapchat. But that explore page is a rabbit hole. I had gotten out of the habit of checking the page that shows what your friends liked but on the explore page was where I got more than I needed. Once Instagram started tracking me, I was seeing allllll the memes, okay? And ya girl loves a good meme.


This most recent social media hiatus forced my friends to actually be my friend. If we were in contact it was due to effort on either of our part, not mindless scrolling and superficiality. This is no shade to those who didn’t hit me up. Well maybe a little but I understand we all have our own lives. Social media has crippled us in many ways one of them being actually being social. Without social media however I was social on my own terms. My level of FOMO was incredibly low and I didn’t have to hit people up when I was in their city because they had no idea I was there. This my friends is true peace.

But the streets was calling ya girl. I didn’t miss the medias but I missed taking selfies. I knew I wanted to start sharing my writing on the internet again so I had to make a decision as to what role the medias would play in my life. I had to control the medias and not let the medias control me. I had to develop healthy scrolling habits. It shouldn’t be this difficult but it is. Some of you can relate.

This wasn’t my first or last media hiatus. I plan to take them for as long as my pages are active and I strongly encourage you to do the same.

There are too many opinions on the web. This is an opinion piece lol but social media gives you all kinds of opinions, even opinions you don’t want. Look at how we were unknowingly manipulated with the election. Look at how Instagram controls our news feed. And if you have an iPhone, you’ve witnessed saying something out loud or on a phone conversation and seeing an advertisement for it moments later. Anh anh!

With that being said, I may go missing from the medias again soon. I won’t announce it. I’ll still blog because I’m going to stop scrolling, not blogging. So if you’re on my email list, good because you’ll know when posts come out. If not, join today!

I also won’t make announcements about it. I don’t think that’s necessary and if you need to get at me, I’m not hard to find.


  1. June 18, 2018 / 6:24 pm

    This was GOOD. I’m dealing with this right now.

    • Kay
      June 18, 2018 / 6:26 pm

      Same. I recently stepped away.

    • Kay
      June 18, 2018 / 6:26 pm

      Again. Lol

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